Learning to Embrace the
“Empty Nest”
T his fall, you may be faced with
an “empty nest” for the first
time as your child moves on to
college or out of your home to start her
own life. This time of transition was once
thought to be the source of great stress
and sadness among women. But research
shows that often depression isn’t an issue
for women facing an empty nest. On the
contrary, this time can be a period of new
opportunities and challenges.
Work on Yourself—For a Change
Many parents find that they enjoy the freedom when kids go away. Here are some suggestions to help you explore this new phase of your life:- Don’t fill the time with chores or errands. Instead, try something new that you’ve always wanted to do.
- Plan your days. While the old routine may be gone, schedule social time and other activities.
- Volunteer. It’s a good way to meet new people and help others.
Adjusting to the Change
While it’s smart to meet an empty nest with a positive attitude, getting used to the change can take a little time. Here are some suggestions to ease the transition.- Stay connected to your coed. E-mail can make it easier to stay in touch.
- Worried about what’s going on away from home? Even though you are apart, you can still remind your young adult about your family’s beliefs and what you expect his behavior to be. That said, it’s important not to “hover.” Allow your child to have his own space.
- If you are feeling down, talk to another parent who is facing the same situation.
