Positive Parenting: Why Dads
Make a Difference
The mother-child bond is one of
the most important connections
humans can make. But
no less important is the bond between
father and child. The impact of a
father’s presence—or absence—in his
children’s lives can have lifelong consequences.
Fortunately, today’s culture
encourages men to go beyond traditional
roles to be involved and caring
supporters of their children.
Studies Highlight Fathers’ Influence
A father’s presence can enhance his child’s life from birth. In one study, premature babies showed improved weight gain in the hospital if they were visited often by their fathers. They also performed better on developmental tests during their first 18 months. Research points to other unique contributions of fathers:- Fathers help their children develop intellectually and socially through physical play. Mothers are more likely to use talking and teaching.
- Children whose fathers participate in their lives are more likely to have higher college entrance exam scores, greater educational achievement, and better economic status.
- Teens who feel close to their fathers—even if the fathers don’t live with them—are far less likely to smoke. According to another study, having a father who exercises is the single biggest factor in whether or not teens are physically active.
- Research also shows that a healthy, involved father can help ease the impact on children if their mother suffers from depression or other mental health issues.
Tips for Healthy Role Modeling
Experts offer this advice to help men deepen their connection with the children in their lives:- Model healthy habits. Exercise regularly; eat a healthy, low-fat diet; and don’t smoke. Actively encourage children to follow a healthy lifestyle: Play physical games with them, offer healthy foods, and limit TV and video-game time.
- Support children’s schooling. Know who your children’s teachers are, and attend parent- teacher conferences. Volunteer your time for school activities. Talk with your children about what’s going on at school.
- Be a positive parent. Establish clear limits so that children know your expectations. Encourage children to share their feelings, and listen attentively.
